I want to move forward. I want to make our country a better place for people like me and people not like me. I no longer want to be angry or disappointed. I don’t want to feel like an outsider. I don’t want to make others feel like outsiders.
So here’s what I am going to do (hopefully). I encourage you to do whatever you can to be good to people no matter what they look like, what their pedigree, who they know, or what they know. Be good. Be kind. Be pleasant. Be loving.
- I am going to pray.
Everyone says this. After anything bad happens. EVERYONE SAYS I’m going to pray. Maybe its the comfort we think it provides us or the people around us when we hear it. I’m not certain when people say it they mean it and actually do it. I’m not certain because I’ve done this very thing. A friend is going through something tough, I say I’ll pray for you. Maybe I do, but mostly like and most regrettably I do not. I feel their pain and do nothing about it. Hypocrite! I must say, I’ve been better lately. I pray right then and there. With them. I grab their hand if they are near me. If not, I pray for them over the phone, or after I text them. I do not wait. I do not push it off. I do it then. We must hold ourselves accountable when we say these things. So, that’s what I will continue to do. I won’t just complain about our country or injustices. I will pray.
2. I am going to give.
I love giving. Wait, do I? Ok, sometimes I find it easier to give in certain areas. There, that’s better. I find it easier to give money instead of time. I am a semi-loner. A real introvert. I love being by myself. I don’t like being lonely. I just like being alone. Sometimes. So, when I put myself in volunteer situations where I have to give my time, I literally need a full 3 day recoup. Anyway, back to this. I am going to give and not worry about receiving. God supplies all my needs. I am going to give and not worry about whether that person is worthy of my giving. I am going to give and I am going to be okay with that. I used to worry that if I give what I have to someone else, I won’t have it anymore. What about me? I’ve grown, and I know that giving comes from abundance, whatever that means to you. And God has never let me down in this area. I am thankful to give. I am grateful to be able to give. At one point in my life, all I could give was time because I was broker than broke! I only have what I have because someone gave to me. Now I can return the favor.
3. I am going to encourage and uplift.
Sometimes you look at your feed and think there’s way to much negativity and trolling in the world. There’s too much hate. Too much power in irresponsible hands. You might begin to feel shrouded in darkness and depression. I will try my hardest not to be that person for you. I have not always been this way, and it takes a real effort to not slip and be NegNik, but I will try. I want to be encouraging and uplift those around me. I want to bring joy and peace where I live. If I can do that for my community then that’s a win.
4. I am going to do good in secret and in public.
Some people need to see that you do good. It encourages them to do good too. Sometimes you need do good in secret because you know that life isn’t about showing off and boasting that you are good.
5. I am going to speak out against violence and hatred.
If you see something, say something. Don’t tell me how X family member is a total racist and do nothing about it.
6. I am going to love and forgive.
Even people who I feel do not deserve it. I hope that at my low points, people do the same for me.
7. I am going to vote.
I know this might sound like a bunch of cotton candy, puffed up, overly optimistic bunch of talk. I feel you. I felt that exact same way writing it. I did. I know. It is very hard to live like this. It’s easy to be angry and stay angry. I was angry. I don’t want to take that away from you. I just want you and me to know that if we did even 1 or 2 of these things, if we made a conscious decision to live better lives and be a blessing to those around us we have nothing to fear and nothing to be angry about. Hold me accountable. Like I said, I would try. 🙂